Your pelvis is an anatomical powerhouse. It is made up of lots of muscles, tendons, and ligaments, all coming together in a brilliant design. Collectively, they create a trampoline or hammock-like shape that holds the base of your internal organs and also your sexual chakra.

What Does the Pelvic Floor Do?

The pelvic floor is responsible for keeping your elimination controlled, your organs in place and your sex organs working. When the muscles and ligaments around this area are not strong enough, you can find a lack of control and a sense of weakness, which directly affects your sexual pleasure.

Not All Pelvic Floors Are Created Equal

Vulva bodied and cock bodied have different pelvic floor structures. Vulva bodies have three entry points into the pelvis: the anus, vagina, and urethra. Cock bodies have two entry points: the anus and the urethra. The muscles of the pelvic floor wrap tightly around these entry points to help keep passages shut. There are also circular muscles around the anus (the anal sphincter) and the urethra (urethra sphincter). Vulva bodies are generally more susceptible to pelvic floor weakness because of hormones, childbirth, and the fact that we have more entry points. Like any muscle in the body, the ones that make up the pelvic floor get weak if not exercised frequently or properly.

Articulation of Your Pelvic Floor

Your pelvic floor is one of the anatomical diaphragms in the body. Just as your respiratory diaphragm moves for breath, your pelvic diaphragm moves and expands as well. Learning how to articulate the muscles around the entry points of the pelvis allows more awareness and control for sexual stimulation, pleasure, and orgasmic potential.

By practicing pelvic articulation, you strengthen and build control over each aspect of the muscles. You allow your muscles to isolate and focus on the different areas that give you more control and power. By being more conscious and aware of the pelvic floor during sex, you can articulate each entry point to build more pleasure and create orgasms in new ways.

The Practice:

  • Lay in a comfortable position and close your eyes.
  • Begin by breathing deep into your belly and pelvis.
  • Imagine the pelvic bowl as a hammock connecting from front to back (your spine to pubic bone) and side to side (side of pelvic bones).
  • Relax your glutes, thighs, and abdomen.
  • Begin by bringing your attention to the entry point of your anus. Gently squeeze the muscles around the anus up and in. Hold for a few seconds and release. Repeat three times.
  • Relax your pelvis.
  • Now focus on your vaginal opening. Gently squeeze as if you have two fingers and you are giving them a hug. It is an up and in motion activating the muscles of the vaginal opening. Repeat three times.
  • Relax your pelvis.
  • Lastly, focus on your urethra. Slightly pull it in and up as you build the gentle squeeze (imagine holding your flow of urine to activate this area).
  • Repeat slowly three times.

You can increase the hold time and the repetitions as you become more aware of each entry point as its own sacred space. Or add your yoni egg into this practice.  

While you do these articulations, it is important to:

  • Connect to your breath
  • Gently squeeze and lift up
  • Do not engage your glute (booty) muscles
  • Keep your thighs relaxed

Now you have an idea of the power of your pelvic floor. With this new experience of feeling and recognizing each area, you can practice articulating to keep the pelvic floor strong and also ignite sexual pleasure. This is one way to explore and turn on aspects of your sexual potential. Remember that you are the owner of your body. You have every right to experience the potential of pleasure that it has to offer.

Monique Gomez / Sex Educator & Coach

Photo Credit: by Emily Kell

August 06, 2020 — A J