We love a good vibrator.
Who wouldn’t? It’s always there for us, gets the pleasure flowing, and can always lead us to a nice, sweet O.
Sometimes, our partners don’t love the vibrator though.
They might see it as competition.
The truth is, most of us never want to hear we are not doing enough for our partners, and these toys can be viewed as them not doing enough.
But that isn’t always the case and it has nothing to do with their performance.
In fact, there is an opportunity to foster greater intimacy with the introduction of toys because it lets us open up to our desires and helps us communicate better.
So, if you’ve been wanting to bring more toys into the bedroom, here are some tips you can incorporate so both you and your partner can feel comfortable and aligned with doing so.
Use it while they Watch
Trust me, your partner loves to see your turn on, so why not invite them to watch you as you pleasure yourself?
Let them know you are thinking about their hands on your body, their mouth, their everything while you do it.
If you’re too shy to try this out in person, make it into a phone convo instead.
Not only will it make them HOT, but it will also allow an opening into more toys into your together sessions.
Bring up a Playful Talk
Bring up the conversation when you are both in good moods. Ask about their fantasies and what toys they would love to bring into the bedroom. Offer your fantasies and your desire to use a vibrator together.
When you are communicative with your partner about your desires, and they care about you, they will honour your desires and want to fulfill them.
Let them Explore the Vibrator
If they are open to it, let them explore it on their own body. Let them feel the sensations and ask them to communicate to you what they are experiencing.
Then when you are both ready, let them us it on you.
Talk to them during the process and let them know the sensations you are feeling.
At the end of the day, the partner who is right for you will be open to your desires and needs. Communicating about what you like, and bringing a vibrator into the bedroom will foster a deeper bond between the two of you because you are both open to exploring each other fully.
Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to let your lover know how good it feels, when you are both in it together.