How to have a nipplegasm (or at least experience enhanced nipple pleasure)
For starters, the advice I give women, in general, applies equally well here: Don’t strive for the orgasm, but rather enjoy the sensations along the way. Nonetheless, here are some suggestions for having more fun with your nipples.
1. Focus on tuning in to pleasure.
In my opinion the biggest challenge for most people is that we live in our heads. We neglect regularly tuning in to sensations from our bodies until either something hurts or doesn’t work well. In fact, this is such an issue for people in general that my next book is going to be about how to feel good in your body from inside out.
Women in particular get trained to think more about how our bodies look than how we actually feel living in them—a process of objectification that starts early in life and can hamper our sexual experience and even take a toll on our mental health.
2. Get your head in the game.
I published a study showing that simply imagining pleasurable genital stimulation without any actual physical touch lit up the pleasure places in the brain very much like the real thing. Once you tune in to your body, take advantage of your powerful mind and use it to connect the sensations you experience during nipple stimulation with thinking about, fantasizing, or imagining pleasurable genital touch.
3. Stimulate various parts of your body.
To prime your body for pleasure, alternate between genital touch and nipple touch, taking advantage of the neuroscience adage “neurons that fire together wire together.” The more both regions get stimulated in tandem, the stronger the connections between them will become. Here is a link to directions for this exercise.
4. Do Kegels while stimulating your nipples.
In addition to the sexual health benefits of strengthening the pelvic floor through a regular practice of Kegels, pulling up on the floor of the pelvis (using a similar action to that used to stop the flow of urine midstream) and rhythmically contracting the PC muscles during nipple stimulation can enhance sexual pleasure and increase the probability of enjoying an nipplegasm. Or any other kind of “gasm,” for that matter.
5. Use toys and other enhancers.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with some handy sex toys designed for nipple stimulation. A small vibrator applied to the nipple can be fun. For the more adventurous, try nipple clamps. (They can be adjusted from Oh! to Ow!)